Today I went to listen to a talk by Prof Sharir, one of my most respected lecturers and idol.
One of his quote caught my attention," Before you care for your patients, you must care for your friends and juniors first."
This is true. But sometimes I don't really see what's the point of being caring towards people nowadays, (no offence) especially to medical students. Perhaps Prof have more experience in life than me, which is why he tried to make us a "caring lot"
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Sometimes when you care for a friend, especially if its one of your best ones, it will rebound back to you, in the opposite direction. Remember Newton's 3rd law of motion? "For every action there is a reaction of equal magnitude but of opposite direction". Somehow thats what i think often happen to me. When i am kind to people people will repay my kindness with stories which is "beyond my imagination".
Lets take one example. When i tried to be kind, people may think that i am gay. When I tried to share my knowledge, someone says i am consultoid. Even the way i walk invites stories. When i tried to help my lady coursemates, someone will say that i am after her. When I share my experience with juniors, someone say I'm arrogant. When I go to the Medicine wards to guide the junior, again news circulating that I'm trying to show off. The list goes on and on.
I am seriously considering to become an insensitive and totally indifferent person. Its so terrible to be caring when all you get is negative snide remarks. It is equally terrible if even someone close to you started doubting you, started to become suspicious of you when you are kind. To put in Joee's words, people will think that I am "pretending to be kind".
I am sure this is not the first time i felt this way. But i am sure this is the last time. No more lessons from me in the future, no more anything from me in the future. Why should I? I did not owe the world anything.
I failed to establish a caring society. I can't go on because it will really affect my studies if the people i cared for started doubting and saying all sorts of things that is not so nice to the ears.
Perhaps future generations can establish one their own way, i don't know. But my impression is being caring(or pretending to be caring) makes you gay, arrogant, action,show off etc.
But by being indifferent, peaceful life awaits. There goes~~~ I'm coming,peaceful life:)
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